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Many women grow up dreaming of becoming a mom. All they want is to hold that precious little bundle of joy in their arms and raise that child to become an amazing friend, a leader and an overall fantastic person.

But what happens when you finally have the chance to start your family, and you can’t get pregnant? Your hopes and dreams of becoming a mom are put on hold and you start to feel helpless.

Turns out, there are things you can be doing now to increase your chances of getting pregnant. While these won’t guarantee anything, it’s nice to know that you’re doing everything you can to prepare your body to conceive that precious baby.

Here are seven natural ways you can increase your chances of pregnancy:

1. Keep a healthy weight

Being overweight or underweight can have a huge impact on your fertility. If you’re not at your ideal healthy weight, there are changes you can make to become healthier and make it easier for you to conceive. Eating right and exercising can also improve your chances, so it’s a win-win situation.
2. Watch the caffeine

If you drink a little caffeine every once in a while, chances are you’re going to be fine. However, if you’re drinking even three cups of coffee per day, you might want to cut back. According to WebMD, you should not be exceeding one or two cups of coffee every day, (or stay under 250 milligrams of caffeine).
3. Drink tons of water

Drinking water is so good for you when you’re trying to get pregnant and continues to benefit you throughout your pregnancy. Drinking enough water helps all your hormones get where they need to go in order for you to conceive. It also helps with circulation and improves egg health, so drink up.
4. Keep your blood flowing

It’s important to exercise to keep your blood flowing, but don’t drastically change your workout routines. If you start doing intense training and you’re working out vigorously for two hours every day, it could actually decrease your chances of conceiving. Just remember, moderate exercise will help, but extreme exercise won’t.
5. Know your food

Certain foods can actually increase your chances of pregnancy. Some of these foods include beans or other plant-based protein, leafy greens, wild salmon and berries. These are only a few options, so do your research and plan meals that include these foods.
6. Don’t be afraid of supplements

Take your vitamins! While you’ll get some of these benefits by eating fertility-boosting foods, it doesn’t hurt to have a little extra help from dietary supplements. Take zinc for better ovulation, folic acid for a healthy baby and extra blood, multivitamins and iron.

These can increase your chances of pregnancy by a lot, and there are also vitamins your husband can take to increase your chances.
7. Don’t stress

It might be time to try a yoga class or learn how to meditate, because studies show that women who have higher stress levels are less likely to conceive. Stress hormones can cause you to ovulate late, or not at all.

You’ve probably been told by at least one person to “just relax and it will happen,” but according to Dorothy Greenfield, (director of behavioral services at the Yale Fertility Center of Yale University) that advice won’t help anyone … but you do need to relax to help improve your chances. On WebMD, she does invite “each woman to look into her own life and try to find tiny spaces where she can give her body and her mind a respite from the stresses of everyday living.”

Maintaining a healthy diet is important at every point in a woman’s life but especially important when trying to conceive a baby. Here are 10 foods that naturally increase fertility in women.

1. Seaweed

Seaweed is packed with nutrients that help enrich the liver, kidneys, bladder, and adrenals which are organs vital to fertility health.

2. Salmon

Salmon is full of Omega-3 Fatty Acids which are proven to regulate blood flow to the reproductive organs.

3. Figs

Figs have been believed to increase fertility since the time of Ancient Greeks, and now we have scientific evidence. Figs contain a lot of iron, which are important for healthy eggs and ovulation.

4. Oysters

Oysters have been known to increase libido, but oysters can also be a great source for fertility because they are packed with zinc, which increases the production of good-quality eggs.

5. Berries

Any kind of berries are good at protecting eggs from damage and aging because they are full of antioxidants. Strawberries have been linked to naturally increasing a woman’s libido.

6. Beans

Beans are a lean protein and are full of iron, which helps to increase fertility and libido. Low iron levels can result in anovulation, which is when ovulation does not produce a healthy egg.

7. Leafy Greens

Dark leafy greens such as spinach, romaine, arugula, and broccoli are high in folate, a B vitamin that has been shown to improve ovulation. Leafy greens also naturally increase a woman’s libido.

8. Maca Root

Maca root increases fertility in men and women by increasing energy, boosting the immune system, and providing vital minerals and nutrients. Maca Root is packed with iron and iodine.

9. Yams

Research shows yams have an ovulation stimulating substance that can help boost fertility.

10. Vegetables and Fruits

Eating up to three servings a day of fresh fruits and vegetables is important for any diet, but especially important when trying to conceive.

1. You’ve checked a few things off your bucket list. Frankly, there’s no “perfect” time to have a baby. If you play the waiting game, there will always be that next promotion to wait for, or that next house, or that next career change. There will always be a reason to put off having a kid. But if you’ve gotten to do some traveling and you’ve taken some career risks already to the point where you feel pretty content, that’s a great spot to be in pre-kid. You can handle spending money on diapers instead of your dream car, or on new baby clothes instead of a new TV (maybe because you already bought these things, or maybe because they’re just not important to you anymore).

2. You can comfortably handle being around other kids. For some people, kids are gross. And that’s not an unfair claim to level against children. They’re always covered in snot and drooling and just leaking from every possible orifice. And they don’t have the good manners to keep it away from you. But if you find snot bubbles cute (or you can at least look at one without recoiling in horror), you can probably handle being a parent.

3. You’ve survived a serious babysitting ordeal. Granted, babysitting is nothing like actually raising a child. It gives you a taste of it the same way burning the back of your hand on a hot stove gives you a taste of being thrown into a volcano. But if you can survive a night babysitting your niece without either of you wanting to get in your car and drive away forever, at least you know you can both raise a kid with a unified front. And that’s something.

4. You’re happy together. You don’t want to be one of those couples that has a baby to “shake things up” or try and fix your marriage. Bring a baby into a home that’s already happy.

5. It’s always been part of the plan, even if it was ambiguous. Having a kid isn’t an impulse decision. You’ve had conversations about a future with kids, or maybe even joked around about a few baby names. It’s not as if you need to have a calendar on the fridge with a date circled and “BABY DAY!” written in red marker. But being on the same page in terms of wanting kids in the first place is important.

6. As far as you know, you’ve got no hard dealbreakers on how to raise your child. You’re pretty sure you both have the same standards on punishment and spanking. Letting (or not letting) your kids play contact sports won’t be a major fight. Neither of you are fucking stupid enough to not vaccinate your kids. It’s important to be in agreement on a lot of the major things you wouldn’t back down on.

7. You both have baby fever. You both hit a point in your life where your biological clock is ready. You find yourself creepily staring at babies in restaurants or not wanting to hand your friend’s newborn back to them. Children suddenly become “adorable” and not “that thing wailing in seat 4E on our intercontinental flight.”

8. You get excited when you see commercials for kid’s stuff. You can’t wait to buy your theoretical kid that Barbie Power Wheels car your parents refused to get you. Or maybe you just want to geek out with your kid and dress them up as Harry Potter for Halloween. No, “living your childhood dreams vicariously through your child” isn’t a reason to have a kid. But it’s a nice perk.

9. You’ve got a spare room you’re not doing anything with. A child isn’t like a home office. You don’t have one just because you didn’t know what else to do with that second bedroom. But kids have a lot of stuff and you want to make sure you have the space for it.

Think you’ll figure out how to make your marriage work as you go along? That’s one way to do it, sure. But, starting healthy habits before marriage can mean the difference between a marriage that thrives and lasts and a marriage that crumbles and ends in divorce.

Cultivating healthy habits builds a strong foundation so that when issues come up, both individuals are more skilled at resolving them in a respectful and considerate manner. So if you’re ready to start working toward a happy and healthy marriage now, here’s five habits you can work to develop.

1. Make your partner and relationship a priority

Your partner will come first after you tie the knot, and practicing making him a priority now will help you experience and enjoy a deeper connection.

2. Give each other freedom

Making one another a priority will mean a lot of one-on-one time. But “it’s just as important to let each other freely do the things you do, as long as they are ethical and moral. By living your own lives pursuing hobbies, interests, spending time with friends you both find your happiness within rather than expecting your sole happiness to come from each other. And when you come together, your individual experiences enrich your relationship.
3. Foster open communication

It’s easy to be honest when the going’s good. But practicing honest and open communication is an important skill to have mastered for when things get challenging.

Couples should learn to share their feelings and tackle conflict everyday. Learning to express frustration, anger or upset in a productive way is the key to avoiding built-up resentment in your marriage.
4. Take responsibility

Marriage is an opportunity to learn, grow and evolve into your best selves. In challenging times, the best thing you can do is take responsibility for your role in the situation and do what you can to make things right.

Blaming your partner perpetuates unhealthy dynamics and keeps you both from what’s most important resolving things in a respectful manner. But taking responsibility doesn’t just count behind closed doors. Taking responsibility also means being responsible for the way you treat your partner in front of others. Always say nice things about him and if you’re not able to, don’t say anything at all.

5. Check in with each other

You may experience this as your dating, and many go-go-go couples see this happen in their marriages: When life gets busy, it’s easy for couples to become ships passing in the night.

Be sure to carve out time to see how the other is doing, ask how they are feeling, and if there’s anything they would like to discuss related to your relationship. This makes your partner feel like they and the relationship matters.

There’s nothing hotter than quick, spontaneous sex get in, get out, and both of you are sexually satisfied.

Or maybe it’s just you who’s satisfied, and she’s a little pissed that you left her high and dry. Quickies are, well, quick no time for a half-hour of foreplay but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t both enjoy the moment.

Use these expert tips to improve your speedy sex game.
1. Seize the moment

The perfect quickie is spontaneous, rushed, and filled with urgent desire. Don’t wait for the perfect moment to present itself (it never will), make that moment happen. Embrace the messiness of the situation maybe do it in a risky location or keep your clothes (mostly) on and she’ll be turned on simply from how much you have to have her right now.
2. Talk to Her

Ten minutes doesn’t give you a lot of time for conventional foreplay, but that doesn’t mean you should skip it altogether. Lucky for you, talking can be pretty sexy foreplay and we don’t necessarily mean dirty talk. There’s nothing sexier for a woman or a man, really than feeling craved and deeply wanted. The quickest way to make her feel this way is to tell her how much you want her and how much she turns you on.
3. Mix it Up

Does a quickie still count if you don’t have full intercourse? If she has an easier time orgasming from clitoral stimulation, use your fingers or your tongue to get her off, instead of focusing on traditional sex. The idea is to have fun spontaneously, and keeps the energy flowing. Any variation of sexual activity is good for a quickie!
4. Don’t Sweat the Orgasm

If she gets off, awesome. But if she doesn’t, no worries (and the same goes for you). What makes a quickie satisfying is being able to take time away from life’s responsibilities to share a fun, sexy experience with your partner. It’s not really about orgasm for either party. In fact, focusing too much on making sure she comes might make her feel pressured and that pressure will ultimately make the experience less satisfying.

It is often said that men are not as vocal about their emotions as women.

And though it is true that many men love to maintain their macho outlook, the truth is that when they it comes to their girlfriends and wives, men do not mind feeling vulnerable.

They don’t mind ‘going soft’ around you, and they surely do not have problems opening up about their fears, past, mistakes, failures and all that.

Complete honesty is possible between partners, and these are the five ways you can make it happen in your relationship:
1. Be patient

You have to learn to adapt to the way a man thinks. Sometimes, all he wants is peace and quiet; he just wants to be by himself or have time to watch a game and get wrapped up in a world of his own… deep in his thoughts.

Bringing up a heated conversation at this time, or basically just raising an contentious issue at this time will often get nothing out of him.

A little patience in this instance would have made everything easier. Timing is everything.
2. Be respectful

Communication between you and your man is quite dependent on the respect you have and show him.
3. Don’t be judgemental

You can’t expect him to keep his openness at 100% when you focus more and overplay the wrong things and mistakes he makes.

You can’t mishandle the situation and condemn him badly for telling you about his mistakes and expect him to open up at another time.

Your partner needs to feel comfortable telling you about everything – whether good or bad. Being judgemental is not the way to get them comfortable enough to do that.
4. Varying communication types

Sometimes expressing himself through face-to-face conversations might be difficult. If a text will make the communication possible, don’t shut it down and insist on a face-to-face discussion.
5. Be supportive

If you’ve shown over time that you are supportive and can proffer answers in difficult times instead of judging and nagging, it’ll also help him feel safe enough to share his difficulties with you.

People love to hate on long distance relationships. They’re hard to maintain and leave you both attached without any of the (ahem) physical perks. But as you’ve probably already realized, love is love. If you’re lucky enough to love someone who is just as crazy about you, then you should value and protect that connection. Maybe you’ve been dating for several years, maybe you just met, or maybe you found each other online. Regardless, you’re embarking on a new adventure together.

Take a moment to congratulate yourself. Not many people have found someone worth the effort. A long distance relationship is all about staying connected while giving space. It can be a balancing act. You want to make sure to put in enough effort to remain fully in each other’s lives, yet you’ll also need space to create your own lives away from each other. If you’re ready to begin this adventure, read on.

1. Share the nitty-gritty

Communication is vital to any relationship, but it’s even more important when you don’t have the option to meet for dinner, hit the gym, or spend the weekend together. Spend time every day talking on the phone, chatting on FaceTime, or Skyping. Texting is great, but it isn’t enough. Ask about your partner’s day and actually listen. Be creative with how you communicate. Surprise your special someone with a love letter, a video, and picture messages. Be constantly present in each other’s lives, even from afar.

2. Talk about the big stuff

According to this study, there’s a reason why people in long distance relationships were no more likely to break up in the first three months than in traditional relationships, yet 40% of long distance relationships end after four and a half months. You need a plan and a goal to work toward. Ask the big questions. Why are you in a long distance relationship? What does it provide you with? Is there an end date? Maybe it’s about following your own ambitions or taking time to decide if this relationship has what it takes to make it. Talk openly about what you both want now and in the future.

3. Plan, travel, repeat

There is nothing like the anticipation of an upcoming vacation together or a firsthand peek into each other’s lives. Stay focused on these trips. Spend time planning the details, counting down the days, and preparing for that moment you’ll see each other (fireworks, I promise). Rather than focusing on how much being apart sucks, talk about how much fun you will have on your next trip together.

4. Talk dirty

Just because you’re a million miles away doesn’t mean you can’t turn each other on. Send sexy text messages, video chat, and talk dirty. Nothing is as good as the real thing, but you need to make an effort to maintain sexual tension from afar. Feel out what you both are comfortable with and be open in expressing what you need. When you do finally see each other, make out like teenagers and enjoy the wild excitement of uninhibited love.

5. Have a life

Your long distance relationship will require effort and time, but don’t let it take over your life. Take this time apart to invest in yourself. Do what you love and spend time with friends; anything that keeps you from moping around and sending sad-face emojis to your significant other. Being in a depressed state isn’t good for either of you. Make an effort to live your life to the fullest while ensuring you make time for each other.

The goal of all sex is that it ends in orgasm, the intense pleasure that comes from the release of all that built up tension, which is a good thing, in fact it results in one of the best feelings ever. Even some sex that doesn’t end up in orgasm can still be quite good, that has been established.

Yet for some reasons, asides from the good vibes that comes out after sex, there can be some unwanted body reaction as well. These feelings can even be referred to as weird, asides from orgasm relieving blood pressure, curing headache, make you look flush, there are other less unwanted things that can happen after an orgasm.

They include sneezing, hallucinations, and serious fatigue, this is what is referred to as per-orgasmic phenomena. It’s just  a scientific jargon for strange side effects to orgasm, writes Laura Hampson, Daily Star.

Here are 5 of the weirdest that might happen after having sex, not just any kind of sex, it can also happen after the best sex of your life, it all depends on your body and how it reacts to it.

1. Crying

This cry is different from the one that might happen during sex. This cry can happen even after one hour of the sex happening. It is referred to as Postcoital dysphoria, and it can involve agitation, depression, tears, anxiety and melancholy feeling. They happen in good and stable relationship.

Psychology could be reason for biological reflex, which is a feeling of loneliness after the sex is over.

2. Weakness

The orgasm may be have been one of the most intense you’ve felt in a long time, but that utter weakness is a side effect of it, in medical terms, it’s called orgasmolepsy. The first case of it was recorded in 1928 and also bring along sleep disorder. It can be as powerful as full muscle control loss that can last for up to 30 seconds.

3. Hallucinations

Ladies would say a good dick would make you see things, well that might be true but it is one of the side effects of orgasm. When a study in Turkey asked 50 women who have experience it, they revealed that they all something about being able to fly or being airborne.

More from the study, 75 per cent of the ladies said they felt like they left their bodies while another 24 per cent said they entered into a world of cartoon.

4. Sneezing

It keeps getting strange, it’s a matter of wonder how after a good round of sex, one can begin sneezing which wasn’t there before. Turns out, during orgasm a part of parasympathetic nervous system was activated that caused the sneeze.  There was a case of a 59 years old woman who began to sneeze consistently for ten years after an orgasm.

5. Headache

Orgasm can help cure headaches, and now apparently for a few set of people, it can bring about headache. Sexual headaches are as a result of adrenaline push in the body that occurs during orgasm.

If love is a battlefield, then dating is a minefield. If you say or do the wrong thing on a first date (or in this case, before a first date), everything can blow up in your face. The first date is a big hurdle you have to jump over — those first impressions are the difference between finding a potential partner and never seeing them again. If things don’t go well on the date, you’ve lost time, money, and also the chance to get to potentially know a pretty awesome person.

Follow these tips to up your chances of getting that highly-coveted second date. You should still pay close attention to how you act on the date itself, but they’ll stop you from sinking your own ship before you’ve gotten the chance to sail.

1. Do not Google your date

Sounds like a great idea at first, right? You might tell yourself you just want to make sure your date is not a weirdo or that he or she doesn’t have a rap sheet, but in reality, you’re probably doing this just to satisfy your curiosity. Let’s say you do search their name and you find a few interesting tidbits.

You found some very specific details about this person, and you take note of this. Then, you go on the date and mistakenly bring this very specific thing up. Oops — you’re caught. You Googled, and your date knows it. This will quickly turn the date to one that’s slightly creepy and very awkward.

2. Do not look at your date’s LinkedIn profile

If you look up someone’s LinkedIn profile before going on a date with that person, he or she will know that you did this, because LinkedIn will notify your date that you looked. Wait until you actually go out on the date to find out career details.

3. Do not ask someone out on a day or brunch date

We’re not saying that this in and of itself will make the date bomb, but going on a day date sounds like one of the least romantic approaches to a first date. There is nothing wrong with going for brunch (which is always awesome) or going for a friendly coffee, but if this is someone you’re really romantically interested in, keep the vibe going with an evening date. You don’t want to give off the wrong idea when it comes to a day date — mostly one that shows you don’t care, or worse, that you’re trying to double-book your dates.

4. Spend too much

This one will just leave your bank account sad. Overly-expensive first dates can be a turn-off for some, as they may become anxious that you will “expect something” at the end of the night for all the money you’ve spent. It’s just way too much pressure on both ends. Even if she is not turned off by your overspending, it can end up being counterproductive in another way. Some women are looking for men to foot the bill. You want someone to like or love you for you, not what you can monetarily give them.

5. Plan for dinner and a movie

Again, there is nothing inherently wrong with dinner and movie. It’s just that it’s not very unique and will remind that person of past dates. Most importantly, though, is that both parts are just bad for first dates: Dinners can be awkward to begin with, and movies provide almost no opportunity to get to know each other. Opt instead to go somewhere fun and interactive, like a bowling alley or comedy club. In those atmospheres, you can talk, touch, and have fun.

6. Overdress or underdress

This is simple — if you’re going on a nicer date, don’t underdress and wear a T-shirt and jeans, and if you’re going bowling or someplace casual, don’t overdress and wear a suit and a tie (unless you’re coming from work and don’t have time to change). Your best option is casual, cool, and not looking like you’re trying too hard. A nice pair of jeans, a dark shirt, and a nice leather jacket is perfect. You want to look modest, and you don’t want to come across like you’re trying too hard.

7. Have expectations

Dating is hard. You don’t know if you two will be compatible or if the date will go well. Go into the date with an open mind, and expect the unexpected. As in, don’t have any expectations of where the night will go. You’ll enjoy your first dates much more — also, why put that kind of pressure on yourself?